Letting go

My very good friend of 20 some years here in Big City is also MFH's aunt - and my FIL's sister. She invited us to dinner last night. We had several glasses of wine and were able to discuss my in-laws overreaction to my indiscretion.

Her theory - it was not a big deal to my FIL until my MIL made it a big deal.

My FIL is not happy with his life. My MIL is turning their home into a museum with her ongoing collecting of antiques. He hates it. They don't sleep together - not even in the same room - and haven't for years because she is a fitful sleeper and he snores. TMI - they haven't had sex in years. I have no doubt they love each other, perhaps out of habit more than anything, but they are not in a healthy relationship.

Last Saturday night they went to dinner with relatives of ours. I was told that they got into a pissing match because he wants to buy a new car and she started screaming at him at the top of her lungs. They were asked to leave the restaurant.

My theory is that he then told her what I did because he wanted to take the heat off of himself and turn it on to me. It worked.

I am a grudge holder. I just am. I am angry that they turned a small moment in time into such a huge fiasco. I told MFH last night that I will let go of this and put it in the past, because it is not healthy for me to dwell on these ill feelings. I will not let a sex starved man and a prude woman rule how I live my life.

But, my son will suffer because I no longer want to spend much time with them.

His grandparents will suffer even more.

Don't misunderstand - MFH can take The Boy and visit all he wants. I have no problem with that. But he's angry as well.

My friend told me not to worry, it will blow over.

I know it will.

But I will never feel the same.